If you're a pastor —
- You start every day knowing that almost everybody thinks you're doing it all wrong!
- You start every day knowing that most people don't really understand what your job is, that most people suspect (r outright state) that you're a lazy, hypocritical, self-centered, self-indulgent blowhard.
- You know that, the less actual education and actual experience your critics have regarding pastoral ministry, the more certain and immovable their judgment of the way you do it will be.
- You know that, unlike any other field of specialty, the less-qualified a critic is, the more respect his opinions will be granted.
If he can't do that, he really, really should find other ways to spend his sojourn here.
So no, I'm not saying these things to elicit pity (or incite self-pity). If it helps people understand their pastors better, empathize better — excellent.
But for the pastor himself? It's just what you have to know. You just have to accept that it's this way, keep your eyes on Christ, stay close to the Cross, and deal.