Read Kim Shay's tribute to her ancient husband Neil on the occasion of his birthday. Here's a taste:
I will say right off that Buggy [her husband] is NOT the man of my dreams. Now, that may sound overly harsh, but it's true. And it's a good thing that he's not, because the man of my dreams is a big wimp, probably. The man of my dreams when I was girl would understand everything I said, agree with everything I said, tell me everything I wanted to hear and sacrifice everything just for little 'ole me. I'm glad I did not end up with that guy. Instead, God gave me the man of His dream for me, and that's a whole lot better.I love posts where sane Christians admire and love on their sane Christian mates, right out there in front of God and everybody.
Absolute truth: one of my favorite post-titles EVER happened to have been written nearly two years ago, by the aformentioned Neil: My best wife now!
Back to Kim's remark, I offer this sage apothegm:
Women who marry what they want, find it is not what they really need...though either realization may take some time.
Women who marry what they need, find it is in fact what they really want