The buildup is a little long, but the payoff is very sweet.
But now parents (and kids), notice: did this boy get excited and do a victory dance because of unconditional self-esteem? Or was it because he tried and accomplished something?
Loaded question. Of course, the latter.
Yes, parents should encourage their kids, and tell them we love them, period. But at the same time, we should encourage them to do, to try, to accomplish. And then we should praise them for their accomplishments.
Even a child makes himself known by his acts,
by whether his conduct is pure and upright.